How is Nichol?? (my boyfriend who is in Antartica for 13 months)
How are your finding it without him???
Now though these questions are asked with the best intentions - I find it very hard to answer them.
Firstly - it makes me feel that all I am defined by is my relationship with him - which is defintly not so. And though it might sound all sweet and all to say I think of him all the time - that isn't so. I am my own person and though I miss him terribly, it isn't like I am completely fallen apart (though sometimes I do feel like that).
Secondly, it is hard to explain how I truly feel about him being away. It is very complex and most of the time the context people ask me these questions is not appropriate for anything long.
Thirdly, I am asked both of these questions ALL THE TIME. By the same people.
Oh...and there is also the "so when does he get back?" question. And then I have to say 1st of December and then deal with their reaction to that. Sigh. Sometimes reality is very hard to deal with.
Now don't get me wrong - it is nice to be asked how I am coping...just i guess I want people to realise that it isn't easy for me to answer and it is hard if people are always asking.
I don't know how to tell some people that i would rather them not ask all the time and to explain why.